I would like to take a few minutes of your time to hopefully motivate and inspire! this you. We all go through things in our life that may seem like setbacks and roadblocks to our future. You work so hard to reach a goal ,and it gets ripped away in an instant by unforeseen circumstances. We have all been there and it takes a huge toll on our self confidence. Don’t you worry child, this is not a means to an end. You are NOT worthless and you WILL reach your goals, but first … we gotta accept our reality and find a way to make today’s problems, old news.
Self Confidence doesn’t mean you have to put yourself before others!
As you all know i’m a single mom, and the struggles never end. I recently posted about life after graduation , and what it’s like working in the corporate world, blissfully adulting.
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When I first became a mom, I thought … thats it.. its over. “When will I have time to finish college? How can I live out my dream now when I have to spend it taking care of another human being. I need to do whatever I can to give this child the best life she can have.. my feeling don’t matter anymore. “
This kind of mindset sent me downwards and still haunts me on my off days. However i’ve learned to adapt to my surrounding and choose new goals and new dreams that include my love.
I had to tell myself that my dreams are whatever makes me happy and are not forgotten. They are always achieve-able however the timeline has extended. There are things I have to do along the way to create the perfect moment.
It’s very easy to want to put yourself first, which is not a bad thing. You should consider your feelings , your wants and needs, because THEY MATTER!
You should always consider yourself in every situation, and it’s okay to be selfish sometimes. Trust me your sanity will thank you. There are more times than none , where I have felt alone, lost and without purpose. I FELT LIKE I WAS HERE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY. Then I realized… That’s exactly what i’m here for…
To make others happy and to make MYSELF happy too! It starts with a little self confidence.
It’s a process
Building the life I want will take time, but it WILL happen. Positivity runs through my veins despite the common lonely feelings. I’ve moved to a new city, knowing no one, no friends and no active social life. This is something that constantly gets me down.
However knowing I have something to strive for motivates me to keep going. I want to build a legacy for my daughter, I want her to be proud of me when she gets older. I want her to say she had the best life growing up and couldn’t have asked for better.
And I want her to know her mom was happy during the process. I don’t want her to see me struggle . Everything I do, is for a goal, a goal that will ultimately make me happy and my continued legacy.
A goal that will bring us happiness, financial freedom, investments, surrounded by love and family and friends in abundance. I trust the process, and my journey in life is just beginning.
so no I will not sit around moping and wishing for better . I will not cry in my room day after day asking for my dreams. I will get up and do something about it and make my dreams a reality.
WE ARE ALL A WORK IN PROGRESS
It’s time we all start accepting our reality and making the most of what we have. Whether it’s something small or big, we can make these moments we have special if we have the focus and self confidence to do so.
- You are you for a reason. – Don’t waste your opportunity to be an amazingly unique human being that can make something great!
- Don’t be afraid to be different! – Society can be controlling and try to shove you into a NORM box. Don’t do it!
- There is no wrong way to be you! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
- Don’t let your self doubt control you. Think of the positives and how you can make the positive even grander.
- You are exactly where you are meant to be right now. Trust the universe and trust the process.
Its all about the journey to your final goal
In my final thoughts, I want you to know that it will be tough, but that’s life. Nothing comes easy and if it did , you wouldn’t have any character.
Believe in yourself that you have the ability to reach your goals.
You have the drive to make your wants a reality.
I BELIEVE you have the self confidence to go for what you want!
TRUST YOURSELF, YOU WILL GET THERE
Author: Abbigayle Warner
Hi I’m Abbi, I’ve been designing and blogging for over 5 years, and I teach other bloggers and mamas how to live a luxe organised life so they can travel more! From Designing organizer printables, to teaching you how to be a boss blogger! Her Luxe Travels is your one stop shop!