Self Confidence | An honest post about accepting reality

I would like to take a few minutes of your time to hopefully motivate and inspire! this you. We all go through things in our life that may seem like setbacks and roadblocks to our future. You work so hard to reach a goal ,and it gets ripped away in an instant by unforeseen circumstances. We have all been there and it takes a huge toll on our self confidence. Don’t you worry child, this is not a means to an end. You are NOT worthless and you WILL reach your goals, but first … we gotta accept our reality and find a way to make today’s problems, old news.

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Self Confidence doesn’t mean you have to put yourself before others!

As you all know i’m a single mom, and the struggles never end. I recently posted about life after graduation , and what it’s like working in the corporate world, blissfully adulting.

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When I first became a mom, I thought … thats it.. its over. “When will I have time to finish college? How can I live out my dream now when I have to spend it taking care of another human being. I need to do whatever I can to give this child the best life she can have.. my feeling don’t matter anymore. “

This kind of mindset sent me downwards and still haunts me on my off days. However i’ve learned to adapt to my surrounding and choose new goals and new dreams that include my love.

I had to tell myself that my dreams are whatever makes me happy and are not forgotten. They are always achieve-able however the timeline has extended. There are things I have to do along the way to create the perfect moment.

It’s very easy to want to put yourself first, which is not a bad thing. You should consider your feelings , your wants and needs, because THEY MATTER!

You should always consider yourself in every situation, and it’s okay to be selfish sometimes. Trust me your sanity will thank you. There are more times than none , where I have felt alone, lost and without purpose. I FELT LIKE I WAS HERE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY. Then I realized… That’s exactly what i’m here for…

To make others happy and to make MYSELF happy too! It starts with a little self confidence.

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It’s a process

Building the life I want will take time, but it WILL happen. Positivity runs through my veins despite the common lonely feelings. I’ve moved to a new city, knowing no one, no friends and no active social life. This is something that constantly gets me down.

However knowing I have something to strive for motivates me to keep going. I want to build a legacy for my daughter, I want her to be proud of me when she gets older. I want her to say she had the best life growing up and couldn’t have asked for better.

And I want her to know her mom was happy during the process. I don’t want her to see me struggle . Everything I do, is for a goal, a goal that will ultimately make me happy and my continued legacy.

A goal that will bring us happiness, financial freedom, investments, surrounded by love and family and friends in abundance. I trust the process, and my journey in life is just beginning.

so no I will not sit around moping and wishing for better . I will not cry in my room day after day asking for my dreams. I will get up and do something about it and make my dreams a reality.


WE ARE ALL A WORK IN PROGRESS

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It’s time we all start accepting our reality and making the most of what we have. Whether it’s something small or big, we can make these moments we have special if we have the focus and self confidence to do so.

  1. You are you for a reason. – Don’t waste your opportunity to be an amazingly unique human being that can make something great!
  2. Don’t be afraid to be different! – Society can be controlling and try to shove you into a NORM box. Don’t do it!
  3. There is no wrong way to be you! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
  4. Don’t let your self doubt control you. Think of the positives and how you can make the positive even grander.
  5. You are exactly where you are meant to be right now. Trust the universe and trust the process.
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Its all about the journey to your final goal

In my final thoughts, I want you to know that it will be tough, but that’s life. Nothing comes easy and if it did , you wouldn’t have any character.

Believe in yourself that you have the ability to reach your goals.

You have the drive to make your wants a reality.

I BELIEVE you have the self confidence to go for what you want!

TRUST YOURSELF, YOU WILL GET THERE

XOXO Abbi

Author: Abbigayle Warner

Hi I’m Abbi, I’ve been designing and blogging for over 5 years, and I teach other bloggers and mamas how to live a luxe organised life so they can travel more! From Designing organizer printables, to teaching you how to be a boss blogger! Her Luxe Travels is your one stop shop!

30 Comments

  1. April 15, 2019 / 4:19 pm

    Omg all of this girl
    You hit it all on the head! Love that in order to truly
    Love others you need to love yourself! Keep it going!

  2. April 15, 2019 / 6:51 pm

    YES!!! To all of this!! currently trying to accept reality for myself and my journey to a healthier me!

  3. April 15, 2019 / 7:12 pm

    Self-confidence is the key to success.I love your confidence and the way you carry yourself

  4. April 15, 2019 / 8:20 pm

    I love this. I needed to read this. Your picture speaks volumes to this post too, you can really see the confidence. AND you are very beautiful momma, well done!

    • April 16, 2019 / 3:14 pm

      Thank you , you are too sweet! Glad i could provide a little motivation!

  5. April 15, 2019 / 10:44 pm

    Trusting our own-self is the most important thing.

    So true. You look gorgeous and very confident in these pictures.

    • April 16, 2019 / 3:14 pm

      exactly! We determine out futures!, & thank you 😊

  6. Arun
    April 15, 2019 / 10:51 pm

    Thank you for the reminders. Yes, we all are work in progress. And our life is meaningful and has purpose. And being ourselves is the best thing.

  7. Bai-Leigh
    April 16, 2019 / 1:24 am

    You’re so beautiful! Love this article. Such a great reminder!

  8. April 16, 2019 / 3:10 am

    Glad you reiterated that its a process. You cannot have it in one go. many will overlook that.

  9. April 16, 2019 / 9:30 am

    Way to go girl…I like the way you think! Totally agree with you that ‘you are you for a reason’. Self-love is a very powerful thing to steer your life in the direction you want & enjoy it en route.
    – Nandita

  10. April 16, 2019 / 9:36 am

    I protect my self-confidence and self-esteem with everything I can. It’s such an important thing to do.

  11. Alexandra Cook
    April 16, 2019 / 1:55 pm

    I think it’s so important to value ourselves. By understanding our self-worth and face reality, we can gain more confidence in our actions and feel more positive in our lives.

  12. April 17, 2019 / 5:16 am

    You are so right! It is a process indeed!
    Working for this one employer literally tore me down in 6 months. Now I am finally starting to be okay again… more than 2 years later!
    Thank you so much for sharing!

  13. April 17, 2019 / 7:13 am

    I enjoyed going to your webiste. I leave comments rarely, but
    you definately deserve a thumbs up!

  14. Agnes Vazhure
    April 17, 2019 / 7:31 am

    It is really important to protect our self-confidence . Don’t let people put you down. Such a great reminder girl. Thanks for sharing.

  15. April 17, 2019 / 10:56 am

    Nice post. I think the rubber hits the road when self-confidence translates to self-belief and then executing on your plans and ambitions.

  16. Joanna
    April 17, 2019 / 1:19 pm

    I think that with a positive attitude towards the things that happen to us, we can overcome the negative and always strive forward towards the good. It’s important to look beyond situations and see the entire picture before we take decisions and give up.

  17. April 17, 2019 / 2:48 pm

    This is so awesome. I really enjoyed your blog this week this is something everyone can enjoy!

  18. Melissa
    April 17, 2019 / 3:25 pm

    Very good article! It is so important to have a positive attitude.

  19. April 17, 2019 / 7:29 pm

    some people hardly come to realty that is why they fall into depressible state thanks very much for this arrticle

  20. April 18, 2019 / 12:33 am

    a must read for everyone, before people have confidence in you, you must first have in your self self confidence is the key.

  21. April 18, 2019 / 5:26 am

    we got this babe! eyes on the prize!!!

  22. April 18, 2019 / 6:37 am

    I truly believe that making yourself happy is the building block of becoming a self-confident person. Cheers to that!

  23. April 18, 2019 / 6:01 pm

    Love your dress and this post on self-confidence. I hope you’ll inspire more to be like you 🙂

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